about handing off things that need carrying

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when people are meeting up with me someplace besides my home, i really love when they ask first (or default to no if they can't reach me) about returning objects to me that they've borrowed, or bringing me things that we'd previously agreed i would borrow. because yo, i have to *carry* home whatever they hand me, and an item that might not be heavy to a TABby could change the whole nature of my walk. depending on its weight/shape and my state of spoonage, it could tip the balance between whether i can walk or need to take a cab.

(i am a person who does appreciate having things returned when they were borrowed, so i don't want to sound otherwise -- the best is when a person mails or calls beforehand to say i'm ready to return x / lend you x, should i bring it when we meet at the restaurant, or wait?